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Taking the writing in to my own hands this post. Now, I am not much for deep posts that come from the heart, but I feel it is necessary given my current situation. It is quite sad of a state when people are merely in love with the idea of being in love. We see these people move from relationship to relationship, without taking a break in between. At first we justify this pattern in their relationships by telling ourselves, “this time, we must be the one they are looking for.” It is quite unfortunate when we begin to see otherwise. This makes us feel extremely cheap and unimportant, and renders our past relationship with that person meaningless.

We were never that special person they were in love with at all. We were just another number. Of course, sometimes these kinds of people do not see past their misunderstanding. But I would rather not tell someone I loved them, then say it and not understand its meaning. As for us, we are not in love with the idea of being in love, rather we pick carefully the people that we say ‘I love you’ to. It is not a race to find this other person, rather a feeling when you do. For example, I am a rather rational and logical person. So I know I will be in love when I can feel that I love that person beyond symbol, paradoxically, nonsensically, irrationally and incommensurably. This is not a universal. This is a particular. Other people will say they know they are in love because they have met someone amazing. This is ugly and sad. There are lots of people who amaze you and make you feel one of a kind. However, this is not love. This is someone who you think is an amazing person. Now, I would not define these people as ‘hopeless romantics,’ but I see them as ‘greedy romantics.’ Taking their love for being in love, and forcing it upon someone else as to create a false reality for that other person.  

Sometimes we even try to reconcile things with this person. A second chance at the relationship maybe. However, usually this person it too in love with the next person they see to have time to listen. In fact, it appears as if they have forgotten you already. And consequently, these words go unsaid. So who wins in the end? Well, I think the people who understand love win. Maybe they do not get the rush of loving everyone, or the acceptance of their partner should they choose to withhold the ‘I love you,’ but people like this understand the genuine force behind the feeling. It is not the idea of being in love, rather it is actual.

Hopefully, if you are the people I applaud, then you have found some comfort in reading this. Know that you will always get a feeling that is greater and worth more to your partner, than the cowardly act of loving the idea of being in love.